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Breaking the cycle of self-destruction

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Years back when I started my career, I had the privilege to work with a wonderful boss. A no-nonsense person, he had strict house rules and was very clear about the direction that the team should be moving.

We used to have two important, not-to-be-missed meetings every week: one at the start of the week to plan the weekly workflow, the other one in the middle of the week to discuss account receivables.

As a rookie, I used to dread the meetings and was always on the lookout for an excuse to skip them. Little did I realize that by looking for excuses, I was sabotaging my career growth. Looking back, I am thankful for the inputs that I got from those meetings.

Most of us have a self-sabotaging behaviour. This is on account of lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. Time and again, I have realised that there is no need to indulge in such behaviour.

A conscious effort is needed to overcome it. Understand the reasons behind your behaviour and take concrete steps to avoid it. Self-realisation helps overcome one’s limiting self-beliefs. It is essential to remember that success is a highly relative term and that there is no need to get stressed on account of that.

The quest for perfection is yet another cause of self-sabotage. While it is important to be perfect, perfection is not the final destination. See the bigger picture and move towards that. We often create our own imaginary barriers that hinder our growth.

Do not feel cramped or caged. Move away from self-imposed barriers and traps. This alone will help you overcome stifling behaviours on your way to success.

Handy Hints:

• Change behaviours you do not like by finding positive habits

• Discover what gives you the ability to make healthy choices

• Learn to open up rather than mask sources of disappointments

Find out why you should follow your heart and go after your vision

Source: C. Sunil Roy, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Senior Manager, Publilink