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Change 'lenses' for better understanding

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During my childhood days, we used to wear glasses with different-colored lenses during playtime. It was fun to see all things around us turn red or green.

As I mature, I realise that people see the world with different lenses. If they wear ''positive-colored'' lenses, they see the positivity in every situation and scenario. If they choose to don ''negative-colored'' lenses, the opposite happens. People believe what they see and create their own interpretation of it.

During an argument, a person always tries to convince the other of his own version of the truth through his own lenses. If only he tries to see the situation from the other person’s perspective, then he might get a better understanding and amicable resolution. This is called ''empathy.''

Specific lenses are formed in our lives by virtue of our different beliefs and values learned from our parents, colleagues and the society. The values we have are what push us to behave and act in a certain manner.

We draw conclusions based on our experiences. We often create generalisations of people and our surroundings. At times, we get disoriented and have mixed misrepresentations of reality. A perfect example is that of a man who was walking on a road and yelled, ''Snake!'' only to find out when he got closer that it was only a piece of rope.

This world is not exactly what it is when we see it through our lenses. What we see is our interpretation of how things and events make sense to us. For some, the world is a place to enjoy with a self-centred focus; for others, it is a place to help people get rid of their specific set of miseries.

Let us change our vision towards the positive first, and the world and other people will change accordingly. Therefore, before you think about changing this world, change your lenses first.

Handy Hints:

• Try to see a situation from another person’s point of view

• Take a step back and consider others’ feelings and opinions

• Ask whether the values you learned are constructive or not

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Source: Kamran A. Siddiqui, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Training Manager in a major Abu Dhabi Oil & Gas Company