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Imagine yourself going to a psychologist complaining about your office colleagues who trigger your anger, your children who drive you crazy with their frenetic behaviours and your spouse who never understands your emotions. Do you think the psychologist can write a prescription for them so that they will behave precisely the way you expect them to? Absolutely not! The psychologist will only focus on your concerns and behaviour, and guide you on how you need to respond to different situations.
Every day, we go about life with a list of complaints which frustrates us in the long run. When we narrate these incidents to someone, we indirectly seek a ''cure'' for people's behaviours and attitudes, but without thinking about our own ''cure.''
All the remedies and solutions to life's challenges lie within you, not in the outside world. If you want to see people change, you need to change yourself first. You will then realise that the world around you starts to shift towards your desired direction.
What you make out of life is a genuine reflection of your inner self/world. If you are not satisfied with what you are doing and are not grateful for even the smallest blessing you receive, then no power in this world can make you happy. If you aspire for certain circumstances to change, start looking within yourself. What you think and do is reflected in how people treat you and how you perceive your surroundings.
We are blessed with two eyes. One eye should see the positivity in others and the surroundings; the other eye should seek the personal characteristics that need to be improved upon. Do this with a great deal of fortitude to adjust to a new paradigm of reality and be happy and contented all the time. It really makes a huge difference.
• Take a look at behaviours you find stressful and correct them
• Decide on a goal you can attain with diligence and persistence
• Train yourself to harbour positive thoughts, views and actions
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Source: Kamran Ahmed Siddiqui, Special to Jobs & Careers
The writer is Training Manager in a major Abu Dhabi Oil & Gas Company