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Finding your own purpose to succeed

Have confidence in your abilities and intuition not in the dictates of othersImage Credit: Supplied

Upon returning from school, my son rushed excitedly towards me, report card in hand. He forced me to leave everything aside to look at his report card. While I was scanning it, I observed that he was very keen on seeing my reaction towards his achievements. Although the results were good, I teased him by telling him that they were not extraordinary. He became sad, but before he could even start to cry, I hugged him as a sign of my appreciation for his efforts.

We have all gone through such an experience wherein we sought the approval of others many times. It has become our measure of success and we use it as a maxim to operate. The same is true with our professional life wherein we tend to equate success with external conditions, and opinions and acknowledgement from others.

Just as striving to get good grades in school to please one’s parents did not instil in some children a love for knowledge, similarly, if your purpose of succeeding is to attain others’ approval, then you will not be able to enjoy the process itself. If you continue to do this, most likely, when you come across failures and mistakes on the way, the rejection scenario will put you in a bigger amount of pain because you have handed over your fate to other people’s opinions.

Successful people are strongly motivated to operate at the optimum level of their abilities, with the drive to learn from all setbacks. They do not care about what other people think of how they are carrying out their tasks. This gives them a balanced perspective to continue with their journey, even under the oddest of circumstances.

Starting today, efface that “report card mentality” wherein you seek the approval of others. Be your own judge. This will allow you to rise above any level of appreciation and start enjoying the journey itself. This should be your trenchant mantra of success.

Handy Hints:

* The best way to achieve great results is to love what you do

* Never feel you are not living up to someone else’s standards

* Focus on your own ideas and decide how best to execute them

Source:  Kamran Ahmed Siddiqui, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Training Manager in a major Abu Dhabi Oil & Gas Company