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How to warm up to enemies in the workplace

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The popular saying goes, ''If you are not making enemies, you are either doing something wrong or you are not doing anything at all.'' No matter how innovative your ideas are or how hard you work to achieve goals, there will always be people within and outside the organization who will oppose you.

More often than not, the enmity you will face will be due to your achievements and not your limitations. Anyone who has faced a rival at work — a colleague threatened by your skills, a superior unwilling to acknowledge your good ideas, or a subordinate who undermines you — knows such dynamics can prove catastrophic for your career, and for your group or organization.

The idea is not to get psyched out; instead, learn a few rules of organizational conflict that will sustain you and help you navigate workplace conflicts far more productively. The mantra is to remain focused on your goals and objectives and not to get too perturbed by others' actions and attitudes.

It is important to identify concerns that are worth a conflict. Fighting over things that do not matter either individually or as an organizational goal will lead you nowhere. It is also significant that you develop an insight into others' opinions and points of view. Insensitivity can kill relationships and make you vulnerable in the workplace.

Embracing your enemy is another key point of survival. Again, you are likely to be caught on the wrong foot if you tend to stay away from your enemies. If you hold your friends close to your heart, learn to hold your enemies in the workplace nearer. You will never know what your enemies are thinking or doing unless you engage with them.

Humor and tact are great ways of diffusing tension. And sometimes, it is important to either ignore or overlook issues for which you have no solutions. Finally, enmity in the workplace is inevitable. Warming up to your enemies can cause you less damage than what you imagine.

Handy Hints:

• Enmity is inevitable anywhere even in a workplace setting

• It is significant to identify concerns that are worth a conflict

• Humor and tact are great ways of diffusing tension at work

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Source: Debasree Banerjee, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Corporate Communications Manager, Blue Ocean Academy, Dubai