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Tips on coping with failure and bouncing back

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We have largely been taught to avoid failure. We are often so focused on not failing that we do not actively aim for success. However, failure should not be taken as something truly negative. Sometimes, it is an important part of working towards accomplishing our goals.

Thomas Edison, who invented the light bulb, reportedly failed 1,000 times before his brainchild took shape. Interestingly, instead of considering 1,000 failures, he viewed the failures as steps towards his ultimate objective.

Your failures explain your personality as much as your successes do. Failure is an opportunity to learn, start again and try using a different method. When you do not land that job you were hoping to get, do not be afraid to ask for feedback. This feedback is important in learning and can help you become a better person.

Failure can help you grow as you need to pick yourself up and try again. Understanding where you have failed can help explain your blind spots. When you push yourself to get the desired result after a setback, you are naturally assessing and extending your own capabilities. To put it simply, failure, if channeled positively, can actually be good for development, making you a better-rounded individual overall.

Of course, bouncing back from failure is often easier said than done. Every individual is different and has a unique way of coping when failing. Failure can take a toll emotionally so make sure to have a network of people you can talk things with to help you process it and learn from your mistakes. You might need a bit of time to grieve from the initial setback; this can be cathartic and help you move on.

The majority of people who have achieved huge success have dealt with failure or made a choice to embrace it. If Edison had believed in failure, we might still be sitting in the dark! ''Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.'' (Henry Ford)

Handy Hints:

• Every individual has a unique way of coping with failure

• If things do not go your way, try to learn from the situation

• Reflect on your achievements by writing a gratitude journal

Get an insight on how your thoughts shape your destiny

Source: Nicola Turner, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Organizational Psychologist, HRI&C