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Use ‘C+R=O’ to take charge of your life

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Let me narrate a very interesting scenario that happened during my childhood. My mother would sometimes lock me inside a dark storeroom for a few minutes as punishment. It was so frightening that I always begged her to let me out while promising not to repeat the same mischievous thing again. I know she just wanted to teach me a lesson. However, such punishment haunted me. I know I had to be punished, but I wondered why it had to be me at the receiving end.

One day, my younger brother was given the same punishment. To my surprise, it was all quiet inside; there was no crying or begging from him. Mom got worried and opened the door, but it was locked from the inside. My brother yelled that he would not open it. It was funny seeing a reversed situation: my mother begging him to unlock the door and promising not to do it again.

This led me to believe in the C+R=O formula. “C” is the circumstances we face in life, “R” the response or decision we make under a specific situation and “O” the outcome of our response. My story is an example of two individuals under similar circumstances who chose to respond differently and got a different outcome.

We do not have control over the circumstances that happen around us, but we certainly have control over the decisions we make. In short, what we make out of life largely depends on the choices we make.

If you are currently experiencing challenges in your professional or personal life, take full control of your current state rather than blame anyone. Analyze your situation and identify the factors that contributed to it. By doing so, you will be able to arrive at the correct solutions and respond better.

Remember, what you become is the result of how you react to events that affect you. Make positive choices each time. It will make a huge difference.

Handy Hints
• Learn to focus on the things and situations you can control
• Your response is triggered by thoughts, emotions, behavior
• How you respond determines your growth and satisfaction

Source: Kamran Ahmed Siddiqui, Special to Jobs & Careers
The writer is Training Manager in a major Abu Dhabi Oil & Gas Company