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What to do when the answer is ‘No’

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There are numerous instances when our requests in the workplace get turned down. The “No” can be for anything, from a salary hike to a shift in working hours to an authorized leave of absence.

Many of us get distressed when our requests are rejected. We feel that our efforts are not being recognized and we are not given due value by the organization.

When we think like that, we put ourselves in a difficult and punishing situation. Apart from affecting our self-esteem, it also makes us bitter. To ensure that this does not happen, it is important to learn how to take “No” for an answer.

At the outset, analyze if the request that you made is genuine and is within the ambit of your company guidelines. All companies have their own rules and regulations and it is important that each employee abides by it.

Many a time, a “No” is not the end of the matter. When you get turned down, be polite. Do not create a scene and blow your steam. Move on; it is not the end of the world.

The “No” for you may be beyond reason, but for the person who has conveyed it, there may be more than one reason for not proceeding with the request. Respect the decision. Do not take it personally or let it create a feeling of depression.

Be patient and remember not to get intimidated. Move forward with the hope that the “No” will soon turn to a “Yes.” There are times when a “No” means “not now but later.”

It is also important to understand how the person makes a decision before proceeding with the request. If you feel your request is going to be rejected, it is better not to proceed. Give the decision maker the freedom to exercise his choice.


Handy Hints

• Being turned down doesn’t mean you can never try again

• Learn to deflect; minimize negative feelings after rejection

• Look at every situation as an opportunity to be more creative


Source: C. Sunil Roy, Special to Jobs & Careers

The writer is Senior Manager, Publilink